I have a complex relationship with the past. I like remembering the grand adventures, but try to avoid woulda, coulda, and shoulda - aka regrets for what I might have done differently. I do believe that when we make the final accounting of our lives we regret more what we didn't do or say, than we do what we have done and said. Why do we dwell on regrets? The past is gone, once the moment ticks by I can't relive it. I might be able to change it tomorrow, go back and see the museum that I missed, or drive the road again and take the other side of the fork in the road. For the most part, the time is better spent reveling in what I have done and what I am going to do.
I gave up on the "C-W-S" turntable a long time ago. I love my adventures, embrace them, and relate them (see my blog at www.jgmurphy.org/wp). I do agree with your last sentence! Who knows what I am going to do!!!
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Jay
I have an enormous amount of regrets, but - as you said - there's no way to change the past. The best thing is to forget it and move on.
ReplyDeleteI tell my patients there is little need to look at the past for the good things from the past are melded into the present and the bad things of the past are best kept there.
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