1: Very likely I have ancestors buried in this cemetery in Boston, do you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family in a cemetery?
2: More than half of Americans are now choosing cremation over burial. For you, cremation or embalming?
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed?
4: Do you own a cemetery plot?
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker?
My answers:
1: Very likely I have ancestors buried in this cemetery in Boston, do you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family? This one felt strangely familiar.
2: More than half of Americans are now choosing cremation over burial. For you, cremation or embalming? Cremation is fine, I really don't care.
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed? Difficult question, they become abandoned after a couple of hundred years.
4: Do you own a cemetery plot? Yes, I have been trying to give it away.
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker? I have thought about this, probably not, 50 years after I am gone no one will remember, or care.
Please share your answers in the comments.
1. Not even when I am in a cemetery where relatives are buried.
ReplyDelete2. Cremation for me after student scientists have carved me up to bits. My presence on our planet has done enough damage, so I don't want to take up space when I am dead.
3. Generally I think cemeteries should be left undisturbed, but they are shocking waste of land. We have one country cemetery here where coffins go in vertically, which takes up much less space. Because of its country location, it quite odd as there is endless land.
4. No. My ashes will be scattered.
5. I agree with you. I won't be around to care and I doubt anyone would bother to see where I was scattered.
5. Maybe I would like a small plaque in a cemetery wall. I'd better decide on this. The end is approaching more quickly that I thought it would.
DeleteThe plaque is one way to say what you have always wanted to say
Delete1: Very likely I have ancestors buried in this cemetery in Boston, do you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family in a cemetery? Not even in the family cemeteries.
ReplyDelete2: More than half of Americans are now choosing cremation over burial. For you, cremation or embalming? Definitely not embalming.
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed? I grew up thinking they were always left undisturbed, but I've learned it's not the same in other cultures. I'm not sure how I feel.
4: Do you own a cemetery plot? No.
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker? I don't really care. SG does. So I suppose I will.
I have thought about a marker in the country cemetery in Michigan, with both of our names and date of marriage, probably a first in that backwater.
DeleteDo you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family in a cemetery? It depends which one. When i visit my mother's side at Christmas and Easter....yes.
ReplyDelete2: More than half of Americans are now choosing cremation over burial. For you, cremation or embalming? From my first aunt on everyone cremated. My last aunt even donated her body for science.And my mother planned creamation too...Im leaning toward creamation even though we still have three burial spots. I want my ashes split in half. Half on my grandmothers resting spot...the over half spread in ocean.
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed? They should never be disturbed.ive seen poltergeist.
4: Do you own a cemetery plot? Three.
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker? No...not since Im getting cremated.
It got me to thinking why anybody would want to be buried anymore anyhow. Back in the day people used to visit cemeteries and take flowers and such as remembrance. But does anybody even visit the cemetery anymore? So who's going to even see it tombstone? I go to my family's twice a year Christmas and Easter, my friends always laugh at me .. they say God you're so old fashioned. And when I go I take a little whisk broom and even clean the Tombstones off of grass clippings.
DeleteI went in search of great-grandparents graves, the last of which died in 1977, most of them in the 1950's, and found the markers slowly sinking into the earth, I had to dig my paternal great grandparents marker out of the sod.
Delete1. In a cemetery in Cleveland Hts, I am surrounded by family when I go there. Four different factions - and that's just on my father's side. I go a few times per year, as it is only 1.5 miles from my house.
ReplyDelete2. Cremation was the way to go, but a few options now that are less carbon footprint. We are exploring those. But initially our bodies will most likely go to a med school before they are completely finished.
3. I don't see the issue with disturbing, as long as families are notified (assuming they can be). Nothing is forever.
4. My parents took the last two spaces in the plot we have had since the 1800s. My great-grandfather was a planner. I paid nothing for their burial as the space and the labor was all paid for in the 1800s. But other sides of the family have two plots and one mausoleum.
5. No headstone. I won't be buried and in a generation (or less) no one who knows me will be alive to visit.
I have helped several people do body donation to medical school forms. The remains are cremated after, and the form had options for the cremated remains. One guy filled in his ex-es name and address and added a note, "you said you would get it all in the end, this is all that is left."
Delete1. Usually if I go to a cemetery, it's because a family member is buried there and I want to see the grave. Otherwise, I don't tend to hang around in cemeteries.
ReplyDelete2. Cremation please!
3. Cemeteries are a big waste of land in the long run but culturally, we have a taboo against disturbing them so I would abide by that.
4. No, I don't own a cemetery plot. You could probably sell yours back to the cemetery corporation if you can't give it away.
5. No headstone or marker for me. Once I'm gone, I'm gone. No trying to hang on.
You will be remembered by many,
Delete1. Never felt that way, and the cemetery I'd be most likely to is now in such a nasty neighborhood that I don't think I'll ever go there. But I usually enjoy visiting ones that are large with trees and flower beds and stuff.
ReplyDelete2. Cremation, and I will make provision in my will - should I be the last to go - to pay a friend to go to Rome (1st class round-trip) and surreptitiously scatter me in the forum.
3. Good question; I don't know.
4. No, all my plots are safely in my head.
5. A life-size bronze sculpture so that the masses my leave their bouquets and other tributes in their bereavement at my passing, maybe with a small altar in front for sacrifices to appease my spirit. If my friend can't get to Rome, it can also hold my ashes.
that is a lot of bronze
Delete1: Very likely I have ancestors buried in this cemetery in Boston, do you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family in a cemetery? My paternal grandparents are buried side-by-side in California, but it doesn't feel like family.
ReplyDelete2: More than half of Americans are now choosing cremation over burial. For you, cremation or embalming? Cremation, and then toss the ashes.
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed? I kinda think forever.
4: Do you own a cemetery plot? I do not.
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker? I want a marker in the hearts and minds of people I knew.
If you're as fun in person, as in your blog, you will leave them laughing for years.
Delete1: Very likely I have ancestors buried in this cemetery in Boston, do you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family in a cemetery? No, only when I'm in Quincy where I really do have family in residence.
ReplyDelete2: More than half of Americans are now choosing cremation over burial. For you, cremation or embalming? Cremation.
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed? 100's of years.
4: Do you own a cemetery plot? No
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker? No
There are some old cemeteries around the country
Delete1: I know where all my kin are buried; the last seven generations are in one cemetery in Michigan.
ReplyDelete2: I like cremation.
3: If we go with the native American approach - always.
4: no
5: no
Mumification could be an option in the desert
Delete1: Do you ever get that feeling that you are surrounded by family in a cemetery? Both hubby and I have quite few family place up at our local cemetery
ReplyDelete2: For you, cremation or embalming? I will be either cremated or possible compost out. The state of Washington is doing this.
3: How long should cemeteries remain undisturbed? Don't know.
4: Do you own a cemetery plot? Yes
5: Do you want to leave a headstone, or marker? I know I want on my headstone a broom..."Sweeping away injustice"