Wednesday, October 28, 2015
My maternal grandparents didn't have a phone for the last 25 years of their lives. If they were coming by for a visit, my grandmother would send a note or a short card saying when they would be by and a short chatty message about what was happening, almost always closing with "that is all for now the mail is coming down the road and I need to run." I doubt that my mother kept any of those notes - she considered such things clutter.
My grandparents were very much from the era of using letters and notes to communicate with family and friends. None of my grandparents finished high school, but all could read and write, three of the four at a very high level, there is a difference between intelligence and education, they were bright people with very limited educational opportunities.
When my paternal grandfather died, my grandmother went through the small chest of drawers that had been his bedside table for 50 years. That was his private and personal space and she said she had never looked in it before. She found two things that surprised her, several thousand dollars in cash. He has squirreled away a few dollars out of his weekly cash allowance for decades, all in neat stacks in the middle drawer. It was what she found in the bottom drawer that moved her the most, every letter he had ever received was there, in neat bundles, tied with string. In her 20's my grandmother had gone to help her mother while she recovered from burns in a kitchen accident. While she was gone she wrote my grandfather a daily letter, everyday for a month, all of those letter were together in one bundle. Another bundle was all of the weekly letters my father had sent home to his father when my father was in the Army for 18 months at the end of World War II. Other bundles were other family events. No one knew he had kept all of these. I wonder what happened to them, my grandmother kept them, but when she moved to assisted living my mother and my aunt cleared out her house. I regret not calling in sick to work for a couple of days to go be a part of that. Some of the items went home with my Aunt - who died mere weeks after my grandmother, little went home with my parents - mom was not much for such clutter. Most went in the trash or on the yard sale. No one will find or read our emails after we are gone. (A file of automotive history was lost, my grandmother had the bill of sale on a new Ford, Mercury or Lincoln, every other year, from the late 1930's though the late 1970's - my mother tossed it without a thought.)
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spouse and a college female friend keep in tough with a written letter. in case you are wondering, no it doesn't bother me.ReplyDelete
I write inside cards - birthday, holiday, special occasion (such as your wedding).
dammit, that should be "touch" not "tough". just woke up and haven't had cawfee yet.Delete
I write less and less, I am the queen of typos, I read right past them.Delete
Growing up I always wrote letters to both of my grandmothers. I still remember how I always began the letters .... "Hi Grandma, how are you? I'm fine." Hey, what do you expect from a child?ReplyDelete
I also kept every letter I received from them. I found it interesting that both Grandmas started apologizing for their handwriting at roughly the same ago (early 80s). "Sorry for my bad handwriting I'm getting old and shaky".
My paternal Grandma died when I was 20; my maternal Grandma died when I was 42. Upon hearing of her death I went to the box in my closet and pulled out all of her letters that I received from her and re-read them. I got a big chuckle out of one letter where she was relaying the family gossip and how an older cousin of mine was getting a divorce because her husband had an affair with "a slut". I was a young teenager when I received that letter and I wonder if I even knew at the time what it meant.
I actually do save a lot of emails (correspondence-type). Whether handwritten on paper or typed out and then viewed digitally a love letter is still a love letter. But you're right, unless I print them out they will be lost forever.
I have written on this topic myself. I miss letters so. I have a box of letters going back to my youth. What a treasure. Email writers will never have anything this precious.ReplyDelete