So, a week in how is married life? Much the same as the last 23 years. One thing that has changed is being able to describe my husband, as my husband. I started out 23 years ago with gender ambiguous pronouns. I moved from there to other half, or significant other, once in a while partner. Partner was problematic, as a lawyer they wanted to know what kind of law my partner practiced. I seldom corrected anyone who referred to him as her, or as a wife. As time progressed I became more likely to refer to J as he. Over time I became more likely to correct. I have tried over the years, using husband, but if asked, I had to explain the complications of marriage. Yes we could have married in Iowa a decade ago, but we would have been unmarried in the states that we lived in.
Marriage is the ultimate self outing. When I refer to J as my husband, there is no question.