Thursday, March 07, 2019

The Ups and Downs

Life has its ups and downs.  Good days and bad days.  Things that go your way, and things that don't.  My brother in law, keeps saying "control is an illusion."  I know for sure there are things beyond my control.  

Some of what I read for work is - well not very cheerful.  I have learned that I need to space out the books on death, with books of life and fun in between them.  I am passionate about improving the choices that people make at the end of life. The issues are not easy to spend time with, but a failure to talk about them results in most people dying in ways that don't reflect their values.    

I am currently reading several books on trauma, to develop programing on trauma informed lawyering.  There are lots of triggers of negative feelings, of long repressed experiences dredged up by these books.  I need to space them out, take them a little at a time.  And along the way remind myself, that the past does not control the present, the past can only hurt me, if I let it invade the present.  Putting the demons of the past into words, helps me render them less powerful.  

I manage the ups and downs.  Life can't be a bowl of cherries, unless we spit out the pits.  

Are you spitting out the pits? 


  1. I swallow the pits of non metaphorical cherries. They always make it out the other end. I probably do the same with metaphorical ones.

  2. I started spitting 30 years ago and have never looked back.

    next week, spouse and I get our wills/PoA/adv dir signed and notarized. gotta be prepared. and we ain't getting any younger.

  3. Well, I haven't yet choked on a pit, but I have swallowed a couple in my lifetime.