I have spent parts of my life trying to be the best, the top dog, the salesman of the month. Much of that energy was wasted, worrying about how others were doing. Over the years I have learned that enjoyment is often found in the journey, in the adventure. So, five questions:
1: Do you have to finish first, or is merely participating reward enough?
2: Do you let what strangers think of you, influence what you do?
3: Will you wear last year's Gucci loafers in public?
4: Have you ever quit seeing a friend who consistently treated you badly?
5: Does your work have to be perfect, or good?
My Answers, We look forward to reading your answers in the comments below.
1: Do you have to finish first, or is merely participating reward enough? This was a mid life change for me, from needing to be top dog, to finding happiness in the middle of the pack. When I started running and doing triathlons I realized I would never be first, but being a part of the event was so much fun. I would challenge myself, I remember my fastest mile split time, finishing the first triathlon and finishing both half marathons. I was no where near the front, but I finished under my own power.
2: Do you let what strangers think of you, influence what you do? I do this less and less as time goes on. One advantage of traveling, is I can say to myself, none of these people will ever see me again, relax and have fun.
3: Will you wear last year's Gucci loafers in public? Oh yes, I am not very fashion forward. Given the choice, I would wear jeans to work everyday (shorts in the summer.) I have to remind myself to not look like a slob from time to time.
4: Have you ever quit seeing a friend who consistently treated you badly? It took a lot to get to this point, but yes. He was one of the few people I knew in high school that I consistently stayed in contact with. Over time his treatment become worse and worse and finally one day I said NEVER AGAIN. It was not an easy move, but I am so glad I did it.
5: Does your work have to be perfect, or good? Good, is good enough. Few things in life are perfect, perfection wastes so much energy. If I worked on each blog posting until it was perfect, you would give up and not come back to see what I was up to and have to say.