Random Tourist Watching 3rd Edition

Someplace over the Atlantic, Cumberland Maryland, Brussels , Athens. 

I Can't Let Them In Anymore

Watching and listening to the negativity, dread, anger and disgust (we can come up with a longer list of words) I can't do it, I can't let those thoughts occupy my brain.  It is not that I don't care, but if I let those thoughts fill my being, I won't be able to focus on the things I can do, the way I can make the world a better place.  

A therapist had his patient meet him in a park one day, and he gave her rubber gloves, and garbage bags and had her pick up trash in the park.  As she did they talked, they talked about all of the people who had left trash in her life, all of the negative thoughts that cluttered her mind.  After an hour or so, it hit her, that she was letting other people's trash fill her life - it was a breakthrough moment for her.  If we let others fill our lives with trash, our lives will be filled with garbage. 

A couple had twin boys.  When the boys were about 10 years old one of them was always sad and glum, and one of them was always happy and enthusiastic.  They took the twins to a renown therapist to see if they could even out their outlooks on the world.  The shrink put the first kid, the glum one, in a room with a pony and left him there for an hour. When they came back, the kid was sitting on the floor crying, the pony was the wrong color, the pony didn't like him, he wanted a boy pony and this was a girl pony, he had stepped in piles of horse shit and if he went near the pony it would probably try to bite or kick him.  Gee that didn't work.  The shrink removed the pony from the room, and sent in the happy child and closed the door. When he came back an hour later the kid was running around the room, throwing straw in the air, looking behind bales of hay and having a great time.  When he asked him why he was so happy, he replied, with all of this horse shit there has to be a pony in here someplace.  I choose to look for the pony.   

Are you letting others fill your life with trash?  Are you looking for the Pony? 

Our Favorite Junk Food - 5 - Questions

1: Pretzels or peanuts? 
2: Red wine or white wine? 
3: Potato chips or nacho chips? 
4: McDonald's, Burger King, or Wendy's? 
5: Starbucks or Duncan Doughnuts for coffee? 

My Answers: 
1: Pretzels or peanuts? Peanuts
2: Red wine or white wine? Red
3: Potato chips or nacho chips? Nacho 
4: McDonald's, Burger King, or Wendy's? Wendy's  
5: Starbucks or Duncan Doughnuts for coffee? Starbucks 

Creative Outlets

What is the purpose of art?   Why do we create it, why do we look at it?  Can the audience be a part of art? 

I enjoy museums, now if you visit one with me, be prepared, I move through at a steady pace, pausing occasionally.  If the guidebooks say allow 4 hours for a museum, I will be done and out in 2 hours or less.  I have only met one person faster than me - I had a hard time keeping pace with dear Jen. 

Art can tell a story.  One theory is that early art was a way of communicating in a pre-literate or illiterate society.  Art can transmit emotions, sadness, happiness, loss, triumph, concentration, devotion, distraction or loss.  Art can reflect reality, or be a total flight of fantasy.  Art can be representational.  Art can be nothing that anyone has ever seen, heard or felt. Art can be tiny, or massive. 

I have taken photographs since I was about 10.  I have painted on and off since my late teens - a neighbor Ester Miller taught me to paint.  She was such fun, she described herself as a successful widow, she had burred two husbands, the first one left her a massive farm, the second one a VW, Porsche, Audi dealership.  She had more money than god, and she lived very normally in a modest condo and drove a VW, usually a Karmann Ghia.  I took a silver jewelry casting and construction class at Rollins College, I keep promising myself I will go back to working in metals.  

What is your art form? 

Thoughts From an Airline Flight

I am fortunate enough to get to fly several times each year.  I have a few work trips each year and a few personal trips - mostly to see family - repeat trips to the same places.  I know the Orlando airport as well as my home airport, and the American Airlines gate agent in Orlando recognized me this trip.  It is easy to become complacent about yet another trip. 

I can remember when a trip to Florida was something people planned for months, saved up for and got excited about.  Not so for me anymore.  And yet there is an adventure in each trip.  On the most recent trip I saw a bald eagle, a feral pig, a stork, and enough tropical birds to stock a small zoo. I visited dear friends and family - some maybe for the last time (my boss asked about my trip and then asked if I visited anyone who was well on the trip - I did, Blitz the Wonder dog has lost a little weight and is doing very well.)  I enjoyed the change in winter weather. When I dropped off the rental car I had driven 710 miles in four days, I don't drive that much in my car in four months.    

I sometimes wonder where the plane has been.  I have been a lot of places, but there are still places for me to explore.  I wonder if the plane has been to the two states I have not been to. What islands in the Caribbean has it been to that I have yet to explore? I wonder who has sat in this seat, first time flyers excited about going to Florida, someone on the way to meet a new love, someone going home for a funeral, or traveling for the last time - as their personal adventure is coming to an end. Filling those seats is what keeps the airlines flying.  

Sometimes the person sitting next to me has a story to tell and is eager for a willing ear, sometimes not.  I always ask, if they are headed out or headed home. Everyone has an answer for that.  One time the guy sitting next to me on a cross country flight, grunted, took a pill and sent a text message that read "I took the second Xanax, I will wake up over California" and promptly went to sleep for five hours. One person spent the next half hour telling me that she was headed to her childhood home to clean it out for the last time - another explained that she was returning to have her furniture packed and shipped to her new home in the middle east.  I sat next to a guy one time who was a consultant who fired people for a living - he joked you never want to see me coming into your office unless you have hired me.  

I feel very secure flying. Airliners are masterpieces of engineering, even after an emergency landing a few years ago, I eagerly took my seat on the next flight.  Rough weather can make it difficult to hold my Coke Zero, but really is no danger to the plane.  The guys and gals up front, are planning to make it home safe, I am just along for the ride.  

What do you think about when you fly? 

Random Thoughts from a Recent Trip

We need to live the life we have, not the life we want, or think we deserve. Life is cruel, nasty things happen to good people and throw off the neat plans we have for what we are going to have, how we are going to live, what we are going to do, and sometimes you can't change it.  Just like a card game, you have to play the hand you are dealt, not the one you were hoping for.  

About 40 years ago, my grandmother and I went to the funeral of one of my great uncles.  It was the first and only paupers funeral I have ever attended.  Herman, or Dutch as he was known, had led a colorful life, and died penniless.  I remember being shocked my the meager coffin and modest surroundings.  The young Salvation Army Chaplin spoke with me, asking how I knew or was related to Dutch. I commented about the modest casket. He said something I had not really thought of for the past 40 years, when you are dead, earthly wealth ceases.  So my advice to my contemporaries today, you are saving for your last 10 years of life, not for beyond your life, use and enjoy what you have while you can, for when you are dead, money is of no value. The purpose of life is not to die with the highest net worth.   

Any day that you wake up, can wiggle your toes, roll out of bed and move under your own power, is a WONDERFUL day.  Enjoy it. 

A Rant from an Old School Friend

Interesting shoe laces 

This appeared on Facebook recently posted by a High School Classmate that I have not seen in nearly 40 years.  Facebook has connected us in fun ways. 

"OMG. Why do so many people chose to stew in their own poison? I get so tired of the nasty negative attitudes of those who chose to be hateful and spew their mean spirited views. Life does not go our way all the time. It never has. Many have had a lot of things not go the way they want; no you can't make lemonade with all the lemons that life hands you. Some times you just have to eat a shit sandwich and get through it. The one truism is that you and only you can control how you will handle the situations in you life. You chose whether you will be angry and miserable or if you will chose to make changes when and where you can to be the best you can be and not live a miserable life. NO, we cannot all be "Polly Anna's" and smile all the time; YES we can get sad or angry or negative - but for short periods of time - just to work through the issue and get it out of our systems - then we need to turn our backs on the negative attitudes and work at improving our lives so that we do not forget to see the beauty and good things because we are so busy hating on things we cannot change."

             

Well said Mary - well said! I moved from where I graduated from high school four months after finishing.  I have not seen very many of my class in nearly 40 years.  There are a few I wish I had stayed in contact with.  

Have you stayed in contact with old school classmates? 

Notable Quotes

"In life, pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Sean Stephenson - in "Get Off Your "But" 

"It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that might as well not have lived at all- in which case, you fail by default."  J.K. Rowling's commencement speech at Harvard. 

What can I add to those, sometimes life is hard.  Such is life.  I pick myself up, dust myself off, and move on.  

Inventory Time

Chapel at Rollins College, Winter Park, Florida 

I recently returned from a trip to Florida, visiting family and friends.  I say this often, because I am going there often.  This trip I spent time with several family members or friends who are experiencing serious illnesses - it was interesting to hear how they are reacting to the changes, in some cases very profound changes in their lives. Some are focused entirely on the loss and on what they can't do, others are focused on what they can do, options for the future and on having a little fun along the way.  

It reminded me that it is time to take inventory.  An inventory of what I have. 
1: Health - I am able to move, walk, climb a few flights of stairs, ride a bike. I can still get stronger.  Life is terminal, but nothing appears to be imminently fatal.  I am sleeping better than I have in a couple of years. 

2: Mind - my mind is intact, I can think, I can read, I can still find connections between seemingly unconnected bits of information, I can understand complex concepts, I can find logical connections and logical failures.  I am still able to learn. 

3: Relationships - My sweet bear is the light of my life, I have a small family that seems to get along.  I have a small collection of friends.  I should put more work into social connections - I am starting to understand my social interaction patterns - understanding should lead to improving.  

4: Mobility - I am able to travel. I am able to fly, or take the train.  I am able to drive and I have a comfortable, reliable car (that is paid for.)  I am building up frequent flyer miles for 2018. 

5: Work - I have work that I enjoy, find value in, and that allows me a great deal of freedom.  

6: Creative outlets - I love taking pictures, and blogging.  I occasionally paint (I should do more painting.)  I enjoy writing, and the more I write the easier it is, and I think the better my writing is.    
There are things I could do in the past, that I can't do today.  Things change, my triathlon days are behind me, I travel a little slower than I once did, and I take a little longer to recover. I am no longer trying to be the fiercest in the office.  My photography is much less technical than it once was, I can't get the angles that I once did, my days of crouching in front of the crowd are in the past. I have permanent nerve damage, and my spine hurts everyday in one way or another.  

I can focus on the changes (losses) or on the inventory of what I can do.  I think it better to focus on what I can do.  

Bloom Where You Are Planted - 5 Questions

As I write this (a couple of weeks ahead of it's posting date) I am watching it gently snow outside my window - the first snow of the season is always kind of pretty and magical - then the novelty wears off and I realize that I prefer warmer weather.  I lived in Florida for about 20 years of my life, every January or February I question the choice to live this far north.  Then I remind myself that I am here for LOVE and opportunities.  We all make choices about where we live.  Many times, outside factors beyond the place shape where we are.  No matter where we are, we can find happiness - we just need to settle down and bloom where we are planted.  

1: What was the primary factor that led to you living where you live? 
2: What is your favorite thing about living where you live? 
3: If you could change the place you live, what would you change about it? 
4: What is the most important factor that keeps you in the place you are living? 
5: How many places have you lived in your adult life? 

My answers: 
1: What was the primary factor that led to you living where you live?  - I am in the Washington DC area because I wanted to live in a real city.  I found the job - so I could live here. 

2: What is your favorite thing about living where you live? - Living in a real city - with the subway within a 10 minute walk of my front door. 

3: If you could change the place you live, what would you change about it? I'd love to have more shopping within walking distance. 

4: What is the most important factor that keeps you in the place you are living? My sweet hubby wants to live here when he retires.  

5: How many places have you lived in your adult life? North Branch, Michigan; Titusville, Florida, Orlando, Florida - 5 places there; Lexington, Kentucky; Arlington, Virginia; Alexandria, Virginia - 6 cities - 9 homes or apartments.  

Boston

I have a conference in Boston in late April, I recently booked travel ($152 round trip for air from DC to Boston - a great price.)  I have only been in Boston once before.  I am looking forward to going back.  I am looking forward to finding a lobster, maybe not quite as big as the one above, but definitely worth the work.  When I was a teenager my grandmother took the family out to dinner for my birthday (also her anniversary and my grandfather's birthday.) I ordered a lobster and as I was setting there cracking the shells and sucking out the meat, my father remarked, "at least they butchered my steak before they brought it to me!"  

Inauguration Day

It is Inauguration Day, the peaceful transfer of power.  One of the benchmarks of our democratic system of government.  The new Congress convened a couple of weeks ago, and are off trying to set the wheels in motion.  The disagreement is already welling over. 

It is going to be an interesting four years.  When it is over I have a feeling there is going to be a mess to clean up.  

How long do you think it will take to clean up the mess?  

Random Tourist Watching Third edition

Mercedes Museum in Stuttgart 

Las Vegas, no she didn't want to touch his snake 

Superman may have buns of steel, but the Gladiator . . . . .

What a way to make a living. 

The Original Disney Park

I started living at least part of the year in Florida in 1972, Walt Disney World had opened near Orlando just a couple of years earlier.  I lived in Orlando from 1980 to 1995.  My middle brother has worked for Disney since 1978.  The last couple of years I lived in Orlando I bought an "Annual Resident Admission" allowing me to go to all of the Florida Disney properties as many times as I wanted for one fixed price.  Needless to say, I have been to the Magic Kingdom, Epcot and the Studios many - many - many times.  The Magic Kingdom over 100 times.  That is a lot of Disney.  

I have been to Disneyland, just once. It is the genius of it all.  You can clearly see the roots of the Magic Kingdom at Walt Disney World in the layout of the original Disneyland.  Some of the rides were duplicated, some were changed.  The California property is more compact.  

The Magic Kingdom I still enjoy, it is timeless and classic.  The last time I was EPCOT I felt like I was in a time warp - it seriously needed updating, having traveled a lot, the World Showcase felt very fake.  I have not been to the Studios in 20 years, I have been to Animal Kingdom once - and kind of liked it.  

Have you been to Disney? 

Old Queen Street

So is there is a New Queen Street, or was this street named after the old Queen - long may she live. 

My Grandmother was proud to have become an American, and had very little memory of England - but she always had a quiet respect for the British Monarchy. I wonder what she would think of the current state of American Politics - I don't think she would be proud of it.

I am way past due for a visit to London.  It has been 5 or 6 years.  So long in fact that the pound coins that I have will be demonetized this year. London is wonderful and crazy.  It is huge, while being compact, it is diverse, while being British, it is a maze, with an amazing public transit system.  I remember the last visit there, it felt like a second home.  Perhaps I was meant to live on Old Queen Street.  

Where were you meant to live? 

Oh I know just how he feels

Weight, I have been struggling with it since I was a teenager.  It is complicated to need to eat to live, when it is so easy to live to eat.  I have established a new habit, I am doing 30+ minutes on the treadmill or elliptical trainer six days per week.  I have been doing this since mid November.  I have dropped a couple of pounds - though I admit I am not a scale watcher.  The first thing I have noticed is that my fingers are thinner.  Of all the places to lose weight first, it is my fingers. My father always had long bony fingers, I know where I get them from.  They are a proud badge of my heritage. 

There are things I would like to improve about my shape.  I have been prettier in my life.  But more important I want to be able to move freely.  Now think about it, the HUGE seal above, swims and moves about freely, he/she has propelled them self up onto that rock.  You don't have to have a 30 inch waist to move well.  

On this count I am winning.  I can walk for loner periods of time without pain.  I can climb a couple of flights of stairs without being winded.  I still fatigue, by back tells me when I need to take a break and relax.  But I am stronger than I was last year, and last year was better than the year before.  I can recall in the darkest days, telling a doctor that I would be happy to maintain what I had and not lose anymore.  I have gone beyond that I regained a lot.  Little by little, an hour a day, I will continue to gain as long as I can. 

What have your done this week - to gain something that is important to you? 

36 Odd things about me

Yes, I know it is more than 5 questions, this one came in via Facebook.

36 ODD Things about you! Learn 36 things about your friends, and let them learn 36 things about you! Just copy and change my answers.
1. Do you like Blue cheese dressing? Yes
2. Have you ever smoked cigarettes?Yes
3. Do you own a gun? Several 
4. What flavor Kool-Aid was your favorite? Cherry with extra sugar 
5. Do you get nervous before doctor appointments? Yes
6. What do you think of hot dogs? Mystery meat
7. Favorite Christmas movie? Holiday Inn
8. What do you prefer to drink in the morning? Coke Zero
9. Can you do push-ups? Not any longer
10. What's your favorite piece of jewelry? Don't wear any
11. Favorite hobbies? blogging,. travel, adventure
12. Do you have A.D.D.?  I have never sit still long enough for anyone to evaluate me
13. Do you wear glasses? Yes
14. Who was your childhood idol? Ansel Adams
15. Name 3 thoughts at this exact moment. Will he ever be ready; should I start dinner, I am fat
16. Name 2 or 3 drinks you regularly drink? Water, Coke Zero, V-8
17. Current worries? Follow up MRI results
18. Currently hate anyone? Hate is such a strong word
19. Favorite place to be? On an adventure
21. Where would you like to go? London
22. Name three people who will complete this.  Anne Marie, Spo, Anonymous
23. Do you own slippers? No
24. What color shirt are you wearing? gray
25. Do you like sleeping on satin sheets? No
26. Can you whistle? Yes
27. Where are you now? Bedroom
28. Would you be a pirate? Yes
29. What songs do you sing in the shower?  What ever I feel like
30. Favorite Girl's Name? Emily
31. Favorite boy's name? J
32. What's in your pocket right now? Nothing
33. Last thing that made you laugh? The Grand Tour
34. What vehicle do you drive? 2012 Mazda 3 hatch
35. Worst injury you ever had? sprained both ankles
36. How many TVs do you have in your house? 3

Steam Train Trivia

On most steam locomotives the pistons moved back and forth horizontally and directly drove the wheels.  On a Shay locomotive the pistons moved vertically and drove a drive shaft that drove the wheels through gears.  The horizontal design was capable of much greater speeds, in excess of 100 miles per hour, had fewer moving parts and was easier to build and maintain.  The Shay design was capable of carrying heavier loads up steeper grades.  In fact most Shay locomotives were used in industrial applications like logging and steel mills.  

The Cass Valley Scenic Railway in West Virginia, is an old logging line.  Cass runs sightseeing trains using steam powered Shay locomotives.  It is a wonderful ride in the woods up the side of a mountain.  

Have you ever seen a Shay locomotive in operation?  
Have you ever ridden a steam train? 

Home

You can barely make out the outline of my building in the fog (center just behind the evergreen.)  The walk from my condo to the nearest subway station crosses a large open park.  Last spring someone paved a new path along the edge of the park, making the walk relatively easy and level.  I am still working on rebuilding my strength and endurance, when I can I walk to the subway (the condo runs a shuttle bus, and I can also drive and park at the station.)  

I love a foggy morning, assuming I don't have to try to drive through it.  It reminds me of early winter mornings in Florida when I was in middle and high school.  School started early, I have vivid memories of riding a bike in the fog up US-1.  

All in all, I like condo living.  I didn't enjoy lawn work or gardening.  I don't have to deal with any exterior maintenance. I walk across the hall and drop trash down the magic cute and it is taken care of from there.  I have access to nice amenities, (I have been using the gym 6 times a week since mid November.)  The compact space is forcing me to think, do I really want or need that in my life, in this space, it is in my life, not out of sight in the other end of the house.  The only thing that would make it better would be more shopping that I could easily walk to.  If only they would build a Whole Foods in the park. A developer that owns property between here and the Metro station has talked to Metro about rebuilding the wobbly parking garage at the station, in exchange for being allowed to build retail space above the garage - in my dreams.  

Tell us about where you live?   

Tourist Watching Second Edition

Las Vegas, waiting for the Bellagio Fountains 

Grant Park in Chicago 

Titusville, Florida 

Newport Aquarium, Kentucky

People seemed to enjoy my tourist watching photos, so here is another set.  

See anything that looks like fun?