Wednesday, November 02, 2016
I May be Losing my Sense of Humor
I don't find funny, things I use to find funny, perhaps I am losing my sense of humor. Perhaps I am developing a better understanding of life and the human condition.
I don't find sexist jokes funny anymore. Over the decades I have told my fair share of dumb blond jokes, and neanderthal men jokes. I don't find them funny anymore, those jokes ridicule people, for being who they are, the jokes encourage negative stereotypes.
I don't find humor in ageism any longer. If we privileged to live long enough, we will all be old some day. Age brings changes, some positive, some not. Age is a part of life. There is great insight and wisdom in age. Making fun of age, promotes the concept that being old somehow makes a person less valued as a person.
I no longer find humor in disability. We are persons first. Coming within a millimeter or so of spending the rest of my life in a wheelchair, changed my perspective. No two of us have the same ability, it does not make one persons ability funny.
I no longer find humor in race, or ethnicity. I apologize for all of tasteless jokes I have told over the decades. Making fun of a person, based on who they are, or where their family is from, is bigoted and narrow minded. It is a small world, all of us are from someplace else, all of us are different in some way.
Yes, we are a product of our beginnings, but that does not doom us to not grow and change, and move beyond.
I find myself less capable of tolerating excuses and self pity. Life can be cruel, get over it, or get some help with developing coping skills. I have, and I have moved on, driving myself with a simple mantra, have I done the best I can with what I have to work with? I have some old friends who wallow in their woe, and don't do anything to try to improve their lot in life. After a few decades it is wearing thin. Life is the adventure you seize, not the one you wish you had.