Wednesday, November 02, 2016

I May be Losing my Sense of Humor


I don't find funny, things I use to find funny, perhaps I am losing my sense of humor. Perhaps I am developing a better understanding of life and the human condition.  

I don't find sexist jokes funny anymore.  Over the decades I have told my fair share of dumb blond jokes, and neanderthal men jokes.   I don't find them funny anymore, those jokes ridicule people, for being who they are, the jokes encourage negative stereotypes.  

I don't find humor in ageism any longer.  If we privileged to live long enough, we will all be old some day.  Age brings changes, some positive, some not.  Age is a part of life. There is great insight and wisdom in age. Making fun of age, promotes the concept that being old somehow makes a person less valued as a person.  

I no longer find humor in disability.  We are persons first.  Coming within a millimeter or so of spending the rest of my life in a wheelchair, changed my perspective.  No two of us have the same ability, it does not make one persons ability funny.    

I no longer find humor in race, or ethnicity.  I apologize for all of tasteless jokes I have told over the decades.  Making fun of a person, based on who they are, or where their family is from, is bigoted and narrow minded.  It is a small world, all of us are from someplace else, all of us are different in some way.  

Yes, we are a product of our beginnings, but that does not doom us to not grow and change, and move beyond.  

I find myself less capable of tolerating excuses and self pity. Life can be cruel, get over it, or get some help with developing coping skills.  I have, and I have moved on, driving myself with a simple mantra, have I done the best I can with what I have to work with? I have some old friends who wallow in their woe, and don't do anything to try to improve their lot in life.  After a few decades it is wearing thin.  Life is the adventure you seize, not the one you wish you had. 




9 comments:

  1. "I had some friends who wallowed in their woe, and didn't do anything to try to improve their lot in life; it wore thin." - so I dumped them. I've got no time for pity parties.

    donald the rump has certainly brought the stupid to the forefront. more is the pity. WHERE are all the intelligent folk?

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  2. Excellent post. Some people just grow older with no growth or insight.
    pparsimony

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  3. Are Trump jokes allowed?

    :-)

    -Andy

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    1. Yes, because he is not a human being. He is a thing. A terrible, terrible thing.

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  4. Great post. I feel that it's not a loss of humor but maturing to wisdom. Wisdom, empathy and understanding are qualities worth achieving. I hope that I grow to understand more in others and laugh at myself more often.

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  5. Having been blessed with a good sense of humour...I think now I am older I am more picky of what I laugh at?
    But I am more picky about most things now too

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  6. We all change as we get older. That's life.

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  7. humor - there is no accounting for taste.

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