I talked with John, a wonderful neighbor Saturday morning that I had not seen much of recently. He has been sick, terminally ill to be blunt about it. Treatment is buying him some time, but that is the most that can be done. He has a couple of weeks off from chemo over the holidays, he just cashed in his frequent flyer miles for plush seats to go visit his kids and grandkids. No reason to save those up, now is the time to go.
I volunteered for Hospice for several years. I wrote deathbed wills, one client died before I left the driveway. None of my clients ever said, I wish I had worked more, spent less time with family, or traveled less. Many of them, like John were hoping for one more holiday with family, one more special event, one more adventure.
John said he retired ten years ago, and they have had a lot of fun. They have traveled and done things they wanted to do. He has been open with his family, they know his wishes.
I was sad to hear John talk about what is happening, I will miss having him as a neighbor. I am glad that he was willing to talk about it, it is a stark reminder to never take today for granted. To do what we enjoy.
It is important to be reminded, the vultures are always circling, looking for the next one to drop.

Sorry about John’s situation but I admire him for continuing to enjoy himself until he can’t manage it.
ReplyDeleteThat's nice that John has been so practical and lived a recent full life, with knowledge of his impending doom.
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