An old friend posted on Facebook late last week that "the father of her children had died" and that she was helping her sons through their loss. She has written and talked about the her life story. She was a small town doctors wife, she had worked and supported him through medical school and residency. They had three wonderful sons and life was good. A big house at the Country Club, a pair of Mercedes in the garage, and then he moved in with his receptionist. The divorce was nasty, apparently he was planning the move and there were few assets to be found. Through it all, she thought of her sons, and protected them from ugliness between her and their father. She went onto finish college and a master's degree, and spent 25 years helping others. Her retirement has been modest but dignified. Even in his death, she is putting her sons first.
I was strangely moved by her extraordinary efforts to put her sons first, to make sure they had a quality relationship with their father. It is not the first time I have seen this, but it is rare. All to often, the kids are used as a weapon of hate between the ex-spouses. She is a good person. There are many good people in the world.
My mood this Monday, is appreciating the good people in the world who do the right thing.
Always good to appreciate the good people in the world. She sounds like a wonder.
ReplyDeleteA Social Worker extraordinaire.
Delete"Few assets to be found." What a surprise. I was reading today about how men, isn't it always, hiding money by not revealing frequent flyer points in divorce settlements and by secretly buying crypto currency.
ReplyDeleteA divorce attorney once told me, "you never know what the other side has hidden."
DeleteAs my dear friend Judge Judy once said, "You have to love your children more than you hate your husband/wife/partner."
ReplyDeleteI'm sure her sons know what happened but why make it all about that?
She has some amazing sons.
DeleteI think there are a lot of people in the world who do the right thing. We just have the awful ones in charge right now. It does make us appreciate the good people even more.
ReplyDeleteNext election, the good people need to show up at the polls with a friend on each hand.
DeleteYour friend sounds like a very good person and very level headed. The world could use more people like her.
ReplyDeleteWe try to share the kindness.
DeleteShe has to be commended. I wonder if she secretly had a voodoo doll hidden away?
ReplyDeleteProbably more than one.
DeleteTaking the high road is a tough road to take at times but your friend did it. I hope her sons realize what an extraordinary women their mom is.
ReplyDeleteI think they do. She has a doctor, lawyer, and filmmaker.
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