I have been reading a lot recently about trauma, and forgiveness. Trauma is a bad thing that overwhelms our ability to cope, and it tends to lock people into behaviours that interfere with life and enjoyment. I know the stoics and Nietzsche thought that life was all about suffering, but I find Joy much more fun. Identifying trauma, talking about it, owning it, and moving past it unlocks us from it's grip. Forgiving frees us from the burden of hurt.
We all have things, large or small that hold parts of us hostage. If we work to identify them, own them, forgive them, and move on, we unlock ourselves from our pasts.
Have you made a list of what is holding you hostage?
To be honest...I dont feel being held hostage by anything at the moment. But in the pass, best to deal head on...otherwise you will be bogged down.
ReplyDeletecurrently nothing. but I did get 4 years of therapy to deal with the past; it helped a great deal.
ReplyDeleteOddly, I’ve never made a list. I know, but writing it down could help!
ReplyDeleteI know what's held me hostage. She's been dead for 26 years now, and I know that Balder Half isn't too good for me. She told him he was. He didn't take her seriously, but she had me for nineteen years so that "not good enough" is kind of ingrained. I detach. Hey, I could've gone the drug route, or alcohol, but contrary to what she called me, I'm not stupid. Ooops, another impromptu therapy session :)
ReplyDeleteI am quite aware of the things that hold me hostage. Happily they are not many and I can often overcome them.
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