Monday Moods: Getting My Priorities Right

I have disappointed a few people when I chose this adventure, instead of accommodating others with my time. I put myself, before others. I have not always done this. 

Way back in the mid 1980's I was working for a home builder in Orlando.  We had a new project getting ready to open, and I had been tapped to be the onsite marketing lead. It was a great opportunity. I had scheduled a week of vacation and planned a trip to New Orleans. Then the dates for the project opening were posted, to overlap with my planned vacation. I asked if the date could be moved, pointing out that development was behind schedule.  The response was, "change your plans, or we will have someone else lead this project." I reasoned that the the project was behind schedule, and that was met with "he assures he will get it done." I cancelled my travel plans. Then the opening date was pushed back two weeks because the development was behind schedule - as I knew it was.  I never did take that trip to New Orleans. I let work take priority over my life. (It was a very good year, the most profitable I ever had with that company.) 

Flash forward to 2018, we were planning a trip to Vienna and onward into Slovakia to see where SBs grandmothers were born. I was serving on the board of a national organization, and they issued a save the date for an important board meeting in Nashville.  We were instructed to hold the dates, but not make travel plans, as there were details to be worked out. It overlapped with the only dates that worked for Vienna, so we didn't plan that trip. Then the board meeting was moved to a month later. Fast forward to today, the locations in Slovakia are 60 miles from the border with Ukraine.  We will make it to Vienna, but probably not father east. I let volunteer work be a priority over my life, and missed an opportunity that may never be possible again.  

As I was planning this trip, there was a save the date for another board I am serving on, for a meeting in San Diego. I kept checking and the answer was, we are not confirmed, there are details that have to be worked out, we are not sure on the budget, don't make travel plans yet. Then the cruise that starts this adventure opened for booking. It is repositioning cruise, so there is only one date, the same week as the maybe, we are not sure, we are trying to work out the details board meeting. I finally decided it was time to let my life be the priority and I booked the cruise. Three months later I get repeated emails asking me if I can't please speak at the meeting in San Diego. I promptly explained that I would be in the middle of the Atlantic, and unable to be in San Diego. 

It has taken me 50 years to do it, but I have my priorities straight, if it is not confirmed, I am not going to plan my personal life around it.  

I am on a digital detox. This post was written ahead of time and scheduled to appear today. I have not missed posting at least once per day in over a decade. While on this detox, I will not have internet access many days, when I do have access it will be limited. Please continue to leave comments, but I may not reply to comments. I will read comments when I can. Normal service will resume in late May.