Volunteering sounds like making a commitment, to being there, to doing things that have to be done, creating obligations at a time in my life when I want fewer obligations and more time to explore creativity. At the same time, I don't want to spend all of my time in relative isolation. Now I am seldom truly alone, my Sweet Bear is nearly always here, this is a desire for social contact with more than just home.
That being said, how do we build social contact? The last three years that I worked, social contact in the office fell apart. We worked remotely for 18 months, and when we returned to the office, only about 10% of the people were there any given day. It was good to see those people, but I missed the random walking around talking with people. Management by Walking Around, someone wrote a book on that back in the 1980s. We did it because it fed our creative thinking. People unrelated to our division, would be doing something we could model, or have suggestions we could not think of without their help.
When I retired that contact largely ended. I stay in touch with the person who took over when I left, we meet for lunch 10 or 12 times a year. I hope that my input helps her with being creative.
What other options are there? Get involved in your community. Go to gallery openings, artist talks, author talks, book parties, take a class, lead a class. When you go, silence your phone and leave it in your pocket. Go to concerts. I can't remember the last time I heard a high school band concert, or the local Gay Mens Choir (in Orlando so it was before 1995.) There are musicians playing tonight in a church or, a bar, restaurant, nightclub, or civic organization near you. Engaging with creative people, will inspire your creativity.
Volunteering with our community arts group started innocently enough. I entered a couple of paintings in one of the shows, and on the drop off day, hung around and handed the hammer to Kevin, helping him hang the show. I was invited back to help hang the next show. Then I was asked to help with some organizing, then asked if I would serve as co-chair. This has fed my creativity in unexpected ways, that I will write about later this year.
The goal is to remain engaged, to regularly see people you don't regularly see. To talk to strangers, to become acquainted, maybe to make some new friends. Doing this pushes back against isolation, and feeds your creativity. Try it. What do you have to lose?
Volunteering somewhere was always in my retirement plan until I retired and it never happened, and I don't feel guilty. My self indulgent life is quite full and busy enough for me.
ReplyDeleteStaying busy, staying engaged in life.
DeleteMy best friend and his girlfriend were visiting his grandparents. His grandfather caught them snogging on the sofa and made it known he wasn’t pleased. He told his grandfather the exciting news, “Grandpa, we’re engaged!” Grandpa said, “Well disengage and make yourself useful!”
ReplyDeleteMy first laugh on a Saturday morning, thank you!
DeleteThat is freakin' hysterical! 😂
DeleteI have already begun looking into volunteering ideas when Retirement Day arrives. I won't be one of those sit around at home people.
ReplyDeleteGet and stay engaged in the world.
DeleteAn excellent post, David! I'm a big believer in this too. Your involvement with the community arts group is exciting and inspiring!
ReplyDeleteAnd has moved my painting in new directions.
DeleteI'm with you all the way. It would be a very dull life if I didn't have so many connections and interests. I love getting out and seeing things and meeting people.
ReplyDeleteYou stay very engaged in your community.
DeleteI bed to point out that Sweet Bear is nearly always here because he spends all of his time in relative isolation. 😂😂😂 😘
ReplyDeleteWe really could get out more, but there are people.
DeleteVery good advice but I would add…..don’t be taken for granted. There are those that would take advantage of others who are generous with their time and suddenly there is as much pressure as before retirement. Learning how to say "no" graciously is a skill. That said, getting out more, meeting new people that you might not normally mix with, and doing stuff that might be challenging, and above all being helpful to others, is immensely rewarding. Life changing in fact.
ReplyDeleteI struggle with saying no sometimes.
DeleteI volunteer but the hours are flexible so it fits my life. I take a Zumba class at the local fitness center and have lots of fun with that. I have brunch once a month with a group of my high school acquaintances and we have lots of laughs but also lots of sharing of aches and pains. Do what you like, do what you want - each person has their own ideas of what retirement should be. Aren't we lucky to be able to be retired!
ReplyDeleteSome didn't make it to this stage of life.
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