Sunday, February 12, 2017

Sunday Five -



I have spent parts of my life trying to be the best, the top dog, the salesman of the month.  Much of that energy was wasted, worrying about how others were doing. Over the years I have learned that enjoyment is often found in the journey, in the adventure.   So, five questions: 

1: Do you have to finish first, or is merely participating reward enough? 
2: Do you let what strangers think of you, influence what you do?
3: Will you wear last year's Gucci loafers in public? 
4: Have you ever quit seeing a friend who consistently treated you badly? 
5: Does your work have to be perfect, or good? 

My Answers,  We look forward to reading your answers in the comments below. 

1: Do you have to finish first, or is merely participating reward enough? This was a mid life change for me, from needing to be top dog, to finding happiness in the middle of the pack.  When I started running and doing triathlons I realized I would never be first, but being a part of the event was so much fun.  I would challenge myself, I remember my fastest mile split time, finishing the first triathlon and finishing both half marathons.  I was no where near the front, but I finished under my own power.  

2: Do you let what strangers think of you, influence what you do? I do this less and less as time goes on.  One advantage of traveling, is I can say to myself, none of these people will ever see me again, relax and have fun.  

3: Will you wear last year's Gucci loafers in public? Oh yes, I am not very fashion forward.  Given the choice, I would wear jeans to work everyday (shorts in the summer.) I have to remind myself to not look like a slob from time to time. 

4: Have you ever quit seeing a friend who consistently treated you badly? It took a lot to get to this point, but yes. He was one of the few people I knew in high school that I consistently stayed in contact with.  Over time his treatment become worse and worse and finally one day I said NEVER AGAIN.  It was not an easy move, but I am so glad I did it.  

5: Does your work have to be perfect, or good?  Good, is good enough.  Few things in life are perfect, perfection wastes so much energy.  If I worked on each blog posting until it was perfect, you would give up and not come back to see what I was up to and have to say.  


7 comments:

  1. 1: participation
    2: HELL NO! I don't give six shits what others think!
    3: don't own any and see #2
    4: HELL YEAH! life is too short to put up with assholes!
    5: good is good enough

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  2. 1: I am not a competitive person so it's just participation for me.
    2: I don't really care what someone who doesn't know anything about me thinks of me.
    3: I have no Gucci's but if I did, why not>
    4: Yes. I'm with AM on this one ... life is too short.
    5: I strive for perfection but am aware that it is not always attainable. Good is good.

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  3. 1) Participate. I prefer to be part of a team.
    2) it's been a big part of my growth to move beyond others opinions.
    3) Wear Last seasons Pradas in public? Yes. Gucci...wouldn't wear that if it were this seasons.
    4) Yes I've had to learn to move on or at least put my oxygen mask on first and that I can't get an oxygen mask on others if they won't let me.
    5) I strive to grow and keep growing. Perfection? That's settling.

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  4. 1 I too think when in my twenties, I was very competitive. Now on a team I do aim for perfection, but don't have to be the top dog.

    2 No, strangers never influence me. I dance to my own music.

    3. Hell no. In my line of work, I wear want to want and will mix new and old together. Keep the classics, they never get tired and one can mix new trends in with the old. Hell, I've been known to wear vintage bow ties at least 60 years old.

    4 yes several times.

    5- I always strive for as perfect as I can get it. But if it is good or higher. I'm happy.

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  5. 1: I never feel the need to finish first.
    2: No. Although I worry some vanity dictates more than I realize it does.
    3: I am still waiting to wear anything Gucci.
    4: Yes.
    5: There was a psychiatrist named Winicott who developed the concept of 'good enough Mothering". It is a wise philosophy.

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  7. Several times in the recent past, I have just scraped people off my plate. I got a few scars as several tried to claw their way back. mostly, they try to regain their hold when we are in public. When I apologize to those who hear these exchanges, most comments were favorable to me since these people clutching at me to would me further are known to be a little bit unhinged. I tried to be nice, but that was not working...so off my plate they went.

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