For the first time in over 15 years, I am not going to Florida for a week with my parents for either Thanksgiving or Christmas. Most years I have flown down, the last 4 years I have driven down and spent the better part of a week with them. They are both in very poor health. I visit every 2-4 months, usually for 2-4 days. I notice how tiring having an extra person in and out of the house is for them. So I decided that spending a week is not a good idea for them (or for me.) If I am spending less then 4 or 5 days, driving down does not make sense as it is 12-14 hours drive time each way. So I need to fly for shorter visits.
Mom has been in very poor health for a couple of years. The time to make travel plans if I am flying for Thanksgiving or Christmas was 2-3 months ago, and honestly at that time she was in crisis mode and every time my phone chimed I braced myself for a message saying she was dead. She is tougher than anyone thought, she is still hanging on. I have flown down a couple of times for a crisis that looked like the end, and it was not. Every time I leave I brace myself for this being "the last time." The "last visit" gets harder to do - the more times you I do it.
So, I am flying down to see them for a long weekend between Thanksgiving and Christmas. I fly down on a Friday, and home on Monday. This gives me two full days, only three hotel nights (the house is full with family and caregivers.) I keep reassuring myself that this is enough.
I am going to Lexington for Thanksgiving with my sweet hubby this year, only the second time I have done that since 2008.